No, this is awesome! A guy with female friends, legit female friends he has never tried to date, is a very good thing. When I like someone, I want to be with them, send them messages, touch them (like cuddling while watching a movie). Go up to a woman and just start taking to her. That's why it's seen as a red flag. And I was told they can’t just be friends but they must be close friends because you have to show the girl you have a social life. However, I don't have a girlfriend, no one tries to introduce to any of their single friends and so on. That kinda thing. •. com for more FDS content beyond Reddit. It sucks an sounds shallow, but if you want a woman who is doing atleast decent in life and is atleast mildly attractive, she wouldn't want anyone who doesn't have a social life or any social status. Be forthright and transparent. Sure, he's got work buddies and he has drinking buddies. Some guys have a chip on their shoulder if the woman is more successful. . I wish he was more experienced sexually. They both had no idea what it's like to be a woman, or how much work and money it takes to maintain the level of beauty they expected from me. These men likely are personable, have a self deprecating humor, talents/skills/hobbies which make them interesting. They never shy away after that. If I was you I'd get into some hobbies, meet people online or through work and start to try and build at least one or two friendships. So him having no dating experience wasn't a red flag it was a bunch of other things. I’ve been told that I can’t date Until I have at least a small group of friends. I have 7 close female friends, go out with them regularly, for drinks, tennis, squash, jogging, swimming and so on. If you have similar interests ask her if she wants to do something sometime. He's not flirting, being romantic, being physically affectionate, kissing, or having sex with his female friends. Yep - I'm friends with two of my exes, so I generally consider it a plus if a guy is friends with at least one of his exes. Hi, I (27M Human) have recently begun to feel the biological clock ticking I currently have no friends nor a girlfriend. Like, go out and legitimately try to make friends. Atleast he is telling you he loves you already, mine doesn't yet. Most of my friendships involve people who have a lot going on or have moved for work. He's not choosing any of them, he's chosen you. Do not soapbox or promote an agenda - you will be banned Follow reddit rules. . It’s been a month. Yes would and have. I move every 6 months for work and have had to explain to many a date how I don't have many close friends and don't have a vibrant social life. I’ve (25m) been talking to this girl (24f) lately and she seems shocked that I don’t really have any friends. He would always complain about the weird people in engineering and how hard it was to make good friends. She's dating you because of all the options she's got you're the one she wanted most. Reply. posts about relationships longer than 6 months post go to r/relationship_advice or if you are married post to r/marriage. I know it's shallow an sucks, but it's the truth I (29f) have had three long dates with this great guy. I have that with a majority of my friends so no biggy. Like lets say a guy made 50k and the lady made 100k. Follow FDS on social media and join the official website at www. Being lonely is. Although if you have no friends and are seriously lonely it does make me question why. He’s very attentive, loving and kind, which is why I married him. I really liked him and his personality. B) if someone is going to cheat on you, they can go on a dating app and do it, it doesn't matter who their friends are. But if you can't drive because you live somewhere where public transportation is available and you don't need to drive, and you are Reply reply. It could be a sign they’re clingy or possessive This is definitely weird and inappropriate. There are some red flags that might involve guy friends, but just having guy friends isn’t a red flag. I would not accept the guy I'm dating to be meeting up with my female friend. If you’re romantically interested in someone, you should ask them out. I wouldn't say it's a red flag if guys don't have friends that are girls but I would day it's a green flag when they do. Also, it’s important to mention that if dating him is not working out for whatever reason, you should not feel pressured to continue dating him just bc he’s autistic. 2. I think that not having friends as a red flag is subjective. I also noticed that at least at this age, no one really wants to just hang out anymore. Although I'm no woman I imagine there are women who do date/marry men with disabilities. It is also good practice for dating because making friends and being a good date take the same kind of skillset. When I started college, I was in a long-distance relationship with a guy who studied engineering at another university. And the instant I met him, I really felt like we really clicked. Dating a guy with kids. The problem with dating someone who has no friends, when you do have friends, is they are often prone to getting too clingy and don’t understand that sometimes you’re ant to hang out with other people without them. My relationships struggle to understand that I work nights and that doesn’t mean I have unlimited free time for them. lolthankstinder. He probably will want to be honest with you but may find it hard to say certain things, opening up to him first will make it easier for him to reciprocate. ago. Do not, I repeat, DO NOT leave the TV on if anything you're saying is important. If it's cause they're shy or wanted to focus on school and career first without distractions then I see no issues. Ensure your body language remains relaxed, as this sends the signal that you are open to conversation and new friendships. I'm 19, don't have any real friends. I am currently dating a male friend I had previously never really (consciously) seen in a romantic way. The easier the chase, the less urgent the pursuit. searedscallops. Is it a red flag if a man is a loner and has no friends? Extremely introverted In 2021, I met my first boyfriend. 1. Yeah just depends, if she keeps busy solo then it's not a red flag, if she starts monopolizing your free time and is clingy then it probably is. Yes, I can’t date someone with no friends I’m sorry. JesusChristSupers1ar. Being exclusive,Invited to family dinner and meeting friends all within the first few months is a great sign. Welcome to r/dating. If they’re not into it, move on. _Mclovin_2015. See above point re trust. if not, worse. And my social circle is focused on social status and I got a 'loser' one. lolliberryx. You should never be friends with someone with an end goal of dating them. I think this would definitely help when it comes to relationships with women. turn it into a flirt Is it a red flag if a man is a loner and has no friends? Extremely introverted In 2021, I met my first boyfriend. Things go sour if people are dishonest. I basically sit at home, workout, play games with friends, tan outside, schoolwork, etc. r/dating_advice. Mar 4, 2021 · You're concerned because the man you're attracted to, maybe even love, literally has no real friends. This is a really important point a lot of people miss. I don't have my drivers' license so he is also practically my uber driver, we You know, the kind of friends who can eventually go months without talking but when they do it's like no time has passed at all. A friend of mine kept encouraging me and so I finally took her advice. Because he has no formal commitment to you he thinks he can do what he wants but that would be my cue to leave. I'm not turned off about the fact a guy has no dating experience, but I get turned off about the problems that no dating experience can create (poor communication, unrealistic expectations, etc. she asks you if you have friends just own it and don’t overly explain yourself. A lonely person who wants friends but doesn't have them is very likely going to develop some really unhealthy/unreasonable expectations of me. 5. Go to dating_advice. In fact, I think the sweetest word comes out from his mouth so far for the last 6 months of dating him was "I want you" "I am thinking about you" - and lastly, we don't have the talk yet of what or where we currently standing. I can understand. at all. Sometimes having no friends is more because of circumstances and not because of personality. But it’s not like I don’t want to have friends. I'd still be hesitant if I were dating because I'm not willing to put up with asshole behaviors covered by "Oh I'm an aspie it's just the way I am. Because if a guy can't have female friends, he's clearly a misogynist. Speak his language. I'm not sure if I'd include you in that category though. It's a very very green flag in my book. He has no friends because he’s lacking social skills to be able to keep people in his life. Greg never grew out of that. It’s unhealthy in a relationship to have opposite sex friendships. It's always the same outcome. Share. Throw_Trash_3928. I know two women who dated men who had no friends and let's just say that over time exactly why these men had no friends became apparent. A man will cheat regardless of who his friends are if he wants to. Some girls don’t mind if a guy doesn’t have friends but others do with few different reasons. Good luck. lead the conversation but without dominating it. Many of my friends were in the same boat. 11. I moved to a new state around October, and I just haven't met anyone that I really click with. They don't pity or define themselves by what they are unable to do. It could just be this person . When we were really close friends, we both had significant others, so my brain pretty much just told my emotions that they weren't allowed to exist. So the important thing is the WHY they have no dating experience. he will probably be hyper sensitive to criticism and negative judgment. He’ll know exactly what you’re doing and think you’re an asshole. If you want to have a good, functional relationship, avoid someone who is overly dependent at all costs. Really communication is the most important thing in any relationship, and especially so when autism is involved. It's generally an indicator of someone who doesn't have much going on in his own life or just isn't very likeable. [deleted] •. I have a girlfriend, and I also have girl friends I go on trips with. The most important thing is the reason. You might even have to make the first move. My husband and I are in our 30s, and we definitely have friendships, even if we don't hang out with our friends as much as we used to. OSUfirebird18. But that's because I have goals and aspirations that may make me fundamentally incompatible with someone who enjoys a low-paying career. A romantic partner often share many similar things you do. If a guy wonders why I don't have "friends" I explain myself. Dating a guy with no friends. I went to a friends birthday party a few days ago and she invited this male coworker she knew. Nobody likes to feel pressure and guilt from a partner. 241K subscribers in the AskWomenOver30 community. I try but it’s difficult for me to make friends. It was kind of sad and very awkward. Show up, awkwardly sit around and maybe talk with a few people. Unless you have a habit of dating men who don’t distinguish between friendship and potential/current sex partners. Being a guy, if you have no social life, you have no social status. The opposite sex friend and the romantic partner by no means need to be close friends or even necessarily “friends”. " It takes a ton of patience and clear communication and empathy (we're not incapable of it, it's just difficult) and willingness to see other perspectives. Your social life could be lacking or you might have an awful personality that repulses people. He’s a guy too. You don't need 6 or even 2 close friends, but not even having one is a bad sign. Just a thought though. He was a super sweet guy and was just effortlessly funny and So the answer is no, I personally would not. Why are you interested in male friends when you are in a relationship it simply means you are not ready to commit. I would, absolutely. Not saying that either of those would be the case with you, but it would certainly be a red flag for me. I’d be more worried if they had none and women didn’t wanna be around him. Common-Bath7838. bearsinbikinis. Reducing contact is not the same as not having friends. Tell him how you feel and, as others said, act normal. Men generally don't care if women have relationship experience. We talked all night yesterday on the app and since last night he was insisting on having a phone call instead because he's not so used to texting. We would like to show you a description here but the site won’t allow us. So me (F20) and my guy best friend (M21) became friends a couple months ago because he actually hit up one of my best friends, but instead we got closer. If a woman keeps “simps” around that are secretly in love with her and will do anything for her, that’s a red flag because it’s toxic and indicates potential ego problems. The best way to start feeling trapped or suffocated emotionally is to date someone who will depend on you too much. The whole point of a relationship is trusting that they won't. You have to initiate things and keep the friendship going. • 12 yr. The existence of platonic friendships with women is a green flag, personally. • 7 mo. Don't get me wrong, I have friends and a social circle, but they don't seem to want to do the same thing I do. In your case, I would. (Don't do that). C) It's irrelevant what the male friends in question think, all that matters is how she responds to them. Everything has been platonic since then, we go to the gym together, he is practically my personal trainer. I was his first friend over in the uk, which was fine Reply reply. As long as the guy wasn't acting like a jerk it should be fine. Chances are she could date a good portion of the guy friends you've already met if she wanted to, instead she's dating you. ) If we go on a few dates and there's otherwise a good connection then I don't care. If you find a girl who likes you and get to dating. That’s probably one of the biggest hang ups in our relationship. Zooming in on the "no friends" part without considering anything else is dumb. If they have no friends at 29, then yeah that is a red flag. Here are some ideas on meeting people: meetup. But those things are the reason why he has no dating experience. sorry but yes it is Its like a red-ish flag Its better to have no friends at all than having bad friends tho. It does not "fast forward" things, but it can make the early parts of dating easier. My say it's a big red flag, a man who doesn't appreciate something artistic or love something enough to make time for it. I guess I don’t have much of a life anymore, but I didn’t think it As someone who has been betrayed countless times by ,,best friends " and have none for quite a while now, I would date someone without friends, without a need for explaining. I have a Previous friend that made fun of me being excited about a new love interest. say I don’t like to hang out with people much and then make it fun say but I like hanging out with you though. The relationship didn't last more than 3 months, basically because it was extremely boring and tedious. One ended up being a sociopath, the other ended up costing me friends because of his lack of social skills. Yes, he's got acquaintances from high 2 days ago · After dating one too many fun boys, toxic boys and all-the-wrong boys, I’ve yielded to the hard-earned wisdom gained from 20 years of absurd romances — heeding psychologists’ suggestions May 20, 2024 · The Saint Laurent dress—with only some extremely well-placed seams preserving her modesty—is by far Bella Hadid’s boldest to date. Many female friends but no girlfriend. I was very attracted to him and loved spending time with him. I was that dude from 17 to 23. Going out with female friends when single will allow you to have an easier time spotting those hints through their lenses. They both took only what they could from porn, and it's as bad as it sounds. Now in our 30s and 40s a lot of us have them. When hoping to make new male friends, you need to possess a level of physical attraction in terms of approachability. You’re supposed to win over brothers, not give them a reason to dislike you for their sister. I (F21) can drive, so dating someone who can't drive isn't a big deal. Slightly crooked teeth or smiles I have no problem with, but missing front teeth that are likely not going to get fixed would be a no-go for me personally. It’s a little weird, yes. com - join some groups for interests you like or just join a general, "make friends"/social group. The ideas of friends with benefits, hooking up with friends, dating exclusively all get muddled up and- in my opinion anyway- a lot of younger guys don't want to commit to any one idea because they don't wanna lose the options. Locked post. As a fellow filipino, I'm dating a german guy currently. I have no issue with people having small friend groups or being introverted. Dont be boring. Award. I don't really want to deal with groups like that, but until I can find another group of my type that doesn't judge by perceived status, I would like to date If you need a guy to have few to no female friends in order to feel special being in relationship with him, that's definitely a you problem, not him. I do have friends actually but nobody that I’m close with anymore. this sub is for advice about specific dating situations not general debates. Most of the times I meet with them 1 on 1, not in groups. My SO's best friend is a woman. (some friends are covered in them) Many of us work very corporate jobs and have to cover them all day at work. I live alone in a small city in Northeast. I saw a post on here the other day asking men who have no friends or relationships what they do with their time. Hi all! I (33/f) met this guy (36) via old. Going on a date with a friend (or hooking up) can put immense pressure on either party to make it work and publicizing the attraction just adds to this pressure. Girls will care if you are insecure about having no friends. A lack of competitors indicates a lack of value. He's not dating his friends. My friend (20F) and I (20F) likes the same guy (22M). Home. So no, that kind of pressure doesn’t last. 18. 2) Don't tell other people in the group unless you actually start dating (like, exclusively and consistently). WhoopsyFudgeStripes. Your personality jives. I've met people, just not people that I would want to hangout with or are into the same things as me. Have an ok time but nothing ever really comes of it. However, I do not feel that “spark” or “chemistry“. Your language may be different if you have more experience dating, so you can still 'speak your language' and he'll pick up on it (like any other language), but be sure to speak his language time to time. JB_NSA. I don’t normally date men with kids because my experience has been they want casual, hooks up, fwb, etc. I now consider it to be a red flag. TLDR: Females are good at spotting hints that other females throw at men who they find attractive. Vote. We do a lot more stuff with other couples than with single friends, but it's still important that we spend time with them. It's also a risk. My boyfriend is such good friends with his ex, he loves with her and her current boyfriend. I second this. The problem is he recently said that if he got a gf, and his gf said he couldn't talk to me anymore, then he wouldn't. Old-Alternative-3684 • 9 mo. But they should be aware of each other and have access to communication to each other. It means he sees women as humans and not as objects. From her perspective It can be a lot of pressure dating somebody that doesn't have any friends. He is romantic, funny, and I find him physically attractive. He is shady imo especially given the age gap. •• Edited. On the plus side, he should help keep life exciting, new, and interesting for you. Another thing is if you have no friends its best to tackle that than getting into dating in general. There are lots of reasons people can be worthwhile people and tygertyger. From them on I played down my love life around her. thefemaledatingstrategy. We can talk easily and have a great time together. Other girls may very well be fine with it, but my relationship experience has shown me that I am not one of them. In that age range, a lot of teens/early 20s don't exactly know what their sexual or romantic plans are. When your partner socializes with their friends, without you, you will be jealous, because you’re left out with no friends. I've always found it somewhat disturbing when women look down on a guy for not having more "relationship experience". And make sure you have eye contact if you really want him to hear you. ADMIN MOD. She's your friend and he's someone you're dating. I find for the most part friend groups have a mindset of the more the merrier. Also as long as the guy doesn't try to make the woman spend a lot more money. I don’t have any friends. It can go sour real fast if you don't jive as partners. Once upon a time I had LOTS of friends. Mostly because I also have zero friends. I (31F) recently started OLD and just yesterday I matched with a guy (33M) who sounded really nice. I like to go to the gym (which has a good selection of people!), I also am busy with grad school (girls are mostly 22-23), and work remotelyso pretty solitary life. Girls see right through shit moves like that and so will her male best friend. be patient, understanding, sensitive. Not having friends isn't a red flag for me. If you can't drive because you have had too many DWI convictions, that is a red flag. Help. When in a social setup, you need to smile at other people and nod in greeting. Never going to date a cheap man ever again. A quite introverted nerdy man who had just moved from the USA to the UK. Long story so Ill try my best to keep it brief. Plenty of people with friends kill their partners. They actually think it's admirable that I don't necessarily need friends. Braces tell me your teeth are a work in progress, so the gap won't be there forever. If they’re best friends he’s going to be like her brother. If you have no friends, you could possibly be clingy in a relationship. Men who cheat will cheat regardless of whether or not they have female friends. Experience has shown that 99% of guy friends definitely have intentions and given a chance they will lay you down. If someone is trying to hide an opposite sex friend or a romantic partner, that is where problems arise. It all depends. When guys are friends with girls, it shows that they have the ability to see women as people and more than just sexual objects. Nov 2, 2020 · Marin also suggests you watch for your date acting possessively, checking in on you repeatedly, and wanting to know where you are at all times. MembersOnline. However, it doesn't necessarily mean the 24black24. It's less that it's a red flag, but more like a guy with female friends is a green flag. 3. You will make your partner feel guilty for having a personal life, and that won’t work. I am like this. Now we're both single and decided to explore some feelings that previously were stifled. In my experience it means he'll be much more likely to handle my friendships well too. When I see an attractive guy at work, I have no idea how much ink he has. I was his first friend over in the uk, which was fine Just keep in mind that a girl who can make guy friends easily really has no trouble finding guys to date. They never have plans to go out and do their own thing, and can get miffed about it when you do. Reply reply. Find something, learn an instrument, read something. 8. Do not call people names, engage in slapfights, or give bad/unethical advice. You should be friends with people who’s place in your life you value on its face, not because you want something from them. Matched with a Guy that has no Social Media Account. Many women will assume your female friends are competitors to some extent, as insinuating yourself as a friend is a reliable seduction tactic for women. Zestyclose-Leader926. But I do need love affection and attention so I'm open to dating. Yes, and finding friends when you're in your 30s can be a pain, too. Do not post content that promotes hate based on identity or vulernability. Yes, it's this bad. But he has to have a life outside the relationship too. I dated a really, really nice guy with zero sense of humor. In regards to friends, I tried the meetup stuff but it just hasn;t been a success really. Feb 21, 2018 · Someone who doesn’t have close friends may depend on you too much or become codependent. 27 Male with no dating experience : r/dating_advice. Friendship is built on commonality, often times you have similar interests, values, humor, etc. [deleted] The only dating subreddit exclusively for women! We focus on effective dating strategies for women who want to take control of their dating lives. Everybody has a life, but not everybody has energy between work and social interactions, or money to spend on the hobbies they'd like to. don’t overcompensate. I think you’re overthinking tbh. Dating for men these days is such a shit show, that I look back at some of my ex's who weren't entirely bad and wished I could have put more effort at the time to make things work, rather than be stuck single like I am today. He'll be expected to stop hanging out with them. The idea of cheating on her never comes to mind as 1) these people are really good friends and 2) because I love her and know how horrible that would be for her. Welcome to AskWomenOver30, an inclusive Reddit I didn't actually get tattooed until I was 30. He can have zero female friends and still cheat with someone at work, at the gym, with a sex worker, on a business trip, with YOUR friends, etc. Try to catch him in a lucid moment with no distractions around. I would have said no, but my last 2 bfs have been like that and it caused all sorts of issues. Here is my thought as a guy who have fallen several times for his female friends. They care that she's, attractive, sweet, attentive, easy to be around, fun to be around, kind, thoughtfuletc. Shitty people can have friends, and often do because psychopaths and sociopaths and narcissists can all have social skills and have a bunch of friends. Please make sure you read our rules here and remember to: Be polite and respect each other. nothing serious and definitely no more kids. It’s been going really well Similarities between both: They had no idea how to actually take care of the woman during sex. I mean, he'd laugh at anecdotes, jokes and stories told by others, but never had jokes or funny stories of his own. No. 14 votes, 42 comments. If you dont even have one normal friend as a full grown adult, then that is usually a sign that there is something wrong with you. Of course, that he has female friends will be a problem IN the relationship. Instead they focus on what they can do. I’m stressed all the time, and sex with him is just ok. My ex had no hobbies. I would say it kinda depends on the person. I barely like my own family. I dated a guy who has autism and your post described him. Ppl moved away for work/military/fallen out of contact with. I don't have friends and that's by choice. No, I wouldn't date someone without friends. I may come off as harsh, but it will save your life. She has guy friends that she chills with and I'm totally fine with that because she knows the same for me. I understood 100% and he was a normal guy otherwise. ag is sj dk xx af jw ar yw ux